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DDOL: Skipping Halloween

Filed under: Family, Liam — Heidi at 9:14 pm on Monday, October 31, 2005

The Lammer did not go Trick-or-Treating this evening. He didn’t really seem to miss it. But I did, even though it was our choice not to go.

We had planned on going with Em and Heath since they were in town. Because they live so far from us, the kids never get to do stuff like this together, and we were SO excited. (Probably moreso than the kids, but that’s beside the point.) The day was going pretty well until Emalee decided not to take a nap. And by that time it was too late…the threat had been made.

Basically, the drama started around 2. Em knew that she was going to go trick-or-treating after her nap, but evidently that wasn’t a good enough reason to rest. Fortunately, Heath is totally down with the Love and Logic, and she kept it up the entire two hours that Em screamed and cried. I admire her, because Em pulled out every trick in the book and came upstairs at least five times that I can think of specifically:

“I need a band-aid. My head hurts. I need a drink of water. I have to go potty. I’m hungry.”

Each and every time she came upstairs, Heath took away one of her friends. Em is familiar with this practice, so it came as no surprise. The first time, Heath sent her down to go get Henny Penny. Em was particularly upset and sobbed as though someone was ripping her newborn child away from her breast, “NOOOOO, NOT H-h-h-henny Pennnnnnnnnyyyyyyyyy.” On subsequent trips, Heath simply asked her what she was going to have to do since she came upstairs. Em would say, in a sobbing voice, “I-I-I (breath) h-h-(breath) have to (breath) g-g-g-give you (big breath into sob) one of my FRIEEEEEEENNNNNDDDSSSS.” Then she would decide and go and get whichever friend it was, sobbing the whole way. Why Em willingly brought them to her, I’ll never know, but the casualties in addition to Henny Penny included Blue Bunny, Horse, and a few others I can’t remember…maybe Buffalo?

Really, Heath was trying everything to work it so that Em could go trick-or-treating. We ALL wanted her to go out a-haunting. She has this great pirate costume with an adult eye-patch that covers 1/4 of her face. It’s so CUTE. And Liam’s is a monkey…because he is. She even told her that if she’d just stay in her bed and rest until she went to get her, that she could still go.

A minute or two after she’d made this bargain, up came Em. She announced, “I guess I won’t go trick-or-treating since I didn’t take a nap.”

We all about died. Unfortunately, it was one of those situations where, as a parent, you have to stick with the consequences you prescribed, even though you TOTALLY. DO. NOT. WANT TO.

I could see the disappointment in Heather’s face…and she was frustrated. You know how when you get really mad at someone and you’d like to take them in the backyard and shoot them? (Only to maim, of course. I won’t say kill, because that could get me in trouble with child services, I believe.) That’s what Heather looked like. I think if steam could actually come out of people’s ears the way it comes out of Tom’s on Tom and Jerry, it would have.

So, Heath made Em call and tell her other Grammy that we wouldn’t be coming. Em just acted like it wasn’t a big deal and she didn’t seem phased when the kids started showing up at the door, but we made a big deal about how much fun they were having anyway.

However, since we’re in the town where pretty much our ENTIRE family lives, and my parents have lots of friends who also happen to be grandmas, we called in a few favors. We’ve rescheduled Halloween for tomorrow night.

I don’t think our little hearts can take Em and Liam not getting to go. And I don’t want to be responsible for postponing Halloween yet another day. If it doesn’t work tomorrow, it just doesn’t work.

Visitation

Filed under: Family — Heidi at 3:25 pm on Monday, October 31, 2005

Went to the Funeral Home today for Visitation. It is always so weird to me that we make our corpses pretty for people to see. And I couldn’t help thinking about Six Feet Under. I totally wanted to go down to the basement and check out the embalming room.

Aside from the fact that I was thinking about the cotton balls under his eyelids and they way that his jaw was sewn shut, I will say, Ernie did look great. He wasn’t at all the Ern that I saw the last time I visited him at the home - and I was glad.

Honestly, I wasn’t too upset upon seeing him. I guess I dealt with the fact that he was going to die and that helped me deal with the death itself. But I did tear up a couple of times while I was there - once when his nurses from the home walked in and also when I saw my two grandmas standing in front of Ernie’s casket with their arms around one another.

I don’t know, but all of a sudden they looked so old. As morbid as it is, I couldn’t help thinking who would be next - and then selfishly pushing that thought out of my mind. Nor could I believe how much my aunts and uncles have aged - not to mention all of my cousins. It seems like last year that we were playing in the lot behind Chris and Andy’s house, making forts and playing Office with Mel and Ryan.

I have always been scared that people are going to die. I think it has to do with the unknown. I used to lie in bed as a kid and cry thinking about losing my grandparents and parents. But, as much as I thought about death as a kid, my own mortality didn’t really hit me until I had Liam.

It just doesn’t seem fair that we all can’t live forever to see our children grow.

Happy Halloween

Filed under: Blah Blah Blah — Heidi at 8:41 am on Monday, October 31, 2005

This is my favorite Halloween candy.

Oh, and I also like those weird, peanut buttery things that come in the black and orange waxy paper that no one else likes.

While I’m on the topic of seasonal candy, I also adore the Cadbury Eggs with the goo inside. Now that I can’t eat the chocolate, sometimes I still eat just the goo. Also dig on the Sweetheart candies and am down with all of the baking at Xmas - especially the sugar cookies, although I think it might just be that I like the frosting.

Frosting tastes good on everything. I could eat frosting sandwiches.

DDOL: Daylight saving sucks.

Filed under: Liam — Heidi at 8:12 am on Sunday, October 30, 2005

So, I’m that person who spent the last month preparing her child for Daylight Saving Time.

At the suggestion of Pam, The Amazing, our Parents As Teachers Parent Educator, I have been putting Liam down about 10 minutes later each week so that the DST wouldn’t come as such a shock to his system. It worked great. He was going to bed close to 8.45 and getting up at 6.45 or so. I’m thinking, “I am SUCH an AMAZINGLY FABULOUS parent. I planned ahead and we’re not going to have any problems with this time thing.”

Oh wait. I forgot that Liam is my kid. Everything has to be challenging. Why? Just because.

So, he got up at 5 a.m. Can I just tell you how AWESOME [heavy sarcasm] that is? I certainly got enough sleep at my mom’s house because people DYING is NEVER stressful and really, and I wasn’t NEARLY busy enough during the day trying to take care of him, Heather’s kids and my parents; trying to organize meals; and figuring out who was going to keep which kid when so that they didn’t have to go to the funeral or visitation. Oh, and let’s not forget about Halloween.

I WANTED to be up at the crack of dawn. Really.

DST is idiotic, if interesting*. Anything that messes with my kid’s sleep schedule is crap to me. The people who decided it was a good idea certainly didn’t have kids on which to force the falling and the springing. (Oh no wait…they weren’t people, they were MEN.)

Still, I’m not about to try to thwart it by being the only one in the metro area living in a separate time zone. That’s just a hassle. Oddly enough, or perhaps not so odd considering it’s Oklahoma, my sister knows a family that doesn’t observe Daylight Saving Time.

I wasn’t sure how they could do this and still get all of their kids to school on time, but it turns out that they home-school, so it’s not an issue there.

Evidently, the family simply acts as though they live in a separate time zone…except they don’t. From what I understand, they are constantly explaining “our” time vs. “your” time to people. For example, if you asked what time church begins, (a most appropriate question in OK) they would say, “10 a.m. (Pause) That’s 9 a.m. your time.”

If I really felt THAT strongly about it, I’d move to Arizona, since they are the last hold-out. It seems that part of Indiana wussed out. They’re giving in next spring.

I suppose we’ll all get used to it and it won’t seem like such a big deal until the next time around. I’m just glad L slept through the night, even if he did get up before the sun.

*See this site. Check out the anecdotes. Very interesting about the trains in October.

DDOL: Grandpa changes a diaper.

Filed under: Liam — Heidi at 7:33 am on Sunday, October 30, 2005

Once he figured out which end was the front, he did just fine.

He couldn’t tell me the last time he’d changed a diaper. It could have been before velcro tabs, since he mentioned that he’s damn good with pins.

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